I’ve searched for happiness all my life. Even as a small kid I would try and alternate my state of mind by meditating or practicing witchcraft. I was a weird kid. I wasn’t an unhappy kid or anything, I just wanted more. I would get really happy at times and go really low at others. I’ve spent years thinking I have a slight bipolar disorder. Well, I found it’s harder to stay happy than get happy.
It’s easy to get happy. For example, go play some soccer with your friends. Or play a game of cards. Go out to a happy hour with people you like (the last part of this is the one that counts). Just do something you can share with people and enjoy the social aspect of being a human.
And here’s a real bomber: go play soccer – or any other physical sport – with great friends. Then go eat a nice meal afterwards, go home, breathe a bit by yourself to let go of any knots in your system and sleep a good eight hours. I guarantee that as you wake up the next day you will be on top of the world and on top of your game at anything you do that day.
But every day isn’t a soccer day. And every day isn’t even a great friends day. And once you don’t have that for weeks or months on end it’s possible to slip away so far you don’t even come close to grasping happiness. That’s why it’s of such an ultimate importance to really keep working at it.
I’m happy and very much on top of my game when I do one of each every day:
* spend time with people I love
* exercise & eat well
* create something (like this blog post)
That’s all it takes. It doesn’t take money. It takes time. But not a lot if you try and spread it out during the day. For example, you can walk or bike to work for exercise, healthy food should be the default, take some photographs on the way back, meditate for one minute while taking your morning shower, and call your friends.
But once you’re happy it’s easy to just forget how you got there in the first place and slip into the old self-destructing habits of coming home, drinking whiskey, eating a microwave dinner and watching crappy tv all evening. I speak from experience. I wish I had never had those periods in my life. But now I’ve learned from them. All I can do now is to write this down and hope that even one person will be better off reading it.
If this helped you in any way, please consider telling a friend.
Paul Rauno Merisalu May 4th, 2014